Susan Pope lost her job as a school nurse after she was arrested for smacking her 10-year-old son.
No criminal charges were brought, but she failed to win her job back at an employment tribunal.
Susan told BBC Radio 5 live’s Richard Bacon about paying the “ultimate price” for disciplining her child.
In May 2007, Susan Pope, from Malvern in Worcestershire, smacked her 10-year old son during a family row.
“We were going through a tremendously difficult time with my eldest son, and tensions in the house were pretty awful,” she says.
“My middle son had picked up on swearing and I warned him that I would smack him if he continued to use revolting language, and that’s what I did.”
Her elder son, who was 15, then called the police, who came to the family home, in what Susan likens to a “raid”.
She told BBC Radio 5 live: “They came and had a look round and went away, and then social services became involved”.
Susan and her husband, who had also administered smacks to their children in the past, were arrested a few days later for “child abuse”, and Susan spent a night in the cells.
She told Richard Bacon that she was upset at how the police responded to her eldest son’s call, although she said she accepted that the police should follow up on cases of suspected abuse:
“I feel horrified that what goes on in your own home in this sort of minor problem that lots of families have, horrified that the police and social services can just invade your life, and that they’ve got a lot to answer for.”
No charges were brought, but Susan, 46, was later dismissed in January 2008 by her employer, Malvern St James School, where she worked as a nurse.
The school said it sacked Susan because her children had been placed on the Child Protection Register, and it was reluctant to allow unsupervised contact with pupils who might be vulnerable.
Susan told the BBC she believes her dismissal was unwarranted.
“The school stuck the knife in and decided to terminate my employment by sacking me, knowing that there were no criminal issues to answer to”, she said.
An employment tribunal upheld the school’s decision, but Susan feels aggrieved that she lost her job when a colleague at the school had retained their post despite having a criminal conviction.
“That’s why I was taking them for unfair dismissal, because they were treating one person very different than another, and one person had a criminal record and I didn’t and I haven’t. And I thought that that was very unfair really, and I would have also expected my employer to support me.”
Susan lost the tribunal earlier this month.
She says she has pursued a complaint against social services, and her solicitor is currently pursuing a complaint against West Mercia police, the force which arrested her.
“I just don’t think the whole thing was handled properly at all.
“We would have been more than willing to voluntarily speak to the police – they didn’t have to arrest us and lock us up in a cell.”
Susan, who is now working as a lingerie salesperson, says she remains upset with her son for involving the police and finds it difficult to put the experience behind her:
“Daily life has to go on, really, so you can’t keep running over old ground, but, deep in my heart, it’s something that will live with me forever.”
She told BBC Radio 5 live that it was “difficult” to say whether it was right to smack her son: “Like many, many parents, there comes a time when ‘no’ isn’t enough. It (smacking) is not against the law, and many people do smack their children as a last resort, so I did what I did, and I’ve paid the ultimate price for it.”
Rosalind Hayes, Headmistress of Malvern St James School, issued a statement saying: “The principal priority for the school has always been the welfare of its pupils and at no time has this been compromised.
“The tribunal has accepted that at all times the school sought, and heeded, advice from experts in the field of child protection and acted in accordance with the policies and procedures set out in the Government’s Safeguarding Children directives.
“The unanimous decision of the employment tribunal to dismiss the case against Malvern St James is welcomed and Malvern St James will continue to follow best-practice in matters of child welfare.”
BBC News, 19th August, 2009